Probably the biggest problem in relationships is that we conveniently assume that our spouse is just like us. Bear in mind that people are different. The science of astrology suggests that there are 12 kinds of people, modern psychology puts people under 16 personality types, Sufi teachings recognized 9 categories of people, whereas 'modern personal growth material' put people under four. In addition to differences in personalities, men and women are not only physically different but also psychologically different, from each other. Men value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They struggle to prove themselves and gain power and skills. Their self-esteem is determined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment through success and accomplishment. If you ask them something that they do not have or would not like to give to you for some reason, they will feel threatened and will withdraw. Never make them feel bad by asking for something that they cannot give or will not give.